The counsel I got from a mentor who had lived the better part of his life in the city, about safe driving in Lagos (the commercial nerve centre of Nigeria) comes to mind. He said, to drive safely in the often crazy traffic grid lock, all you got to do is keep to the MIDDLE or CENTER lane, no matter where you're heading. I find this irresistibly relevant to this thought on PARENTING. And trust me, it doesn't matter whether it's biological and or physical (we sometimes HAVE to mentor and raise children who ain't from our lions) or spiritual parenting.
Whichever it is, you must never be caught on either side of the extremes: those who by default indulge their children till they become incurably insolent, or those who will always readily spoil the rod at the slightest instance, rather than in anyway spoil the child. The former believes being good at parenting is located in the precinct of dancing to every whim and caprice of their beloved impressionable wads, while the latter believes in unbridled assertiveness, without factoring the feelings and rights of their wad to be childish (our children do have well established rights to be childish/foolish) in to the situation.
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